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Sep
29
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Rainmaker87 asked:
Okay well the question is vague, but here is the problem. My twins have been in foster care for about 3 months. They were born two months premature so they are behind in development. Well my husband and I have visits with them only on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays for 1 hour each, unless something goes wrong or the day is a holiday. Anyway we had to go through parenting classes and still are. The techniques don’t work because they fit normal kids, not premature ones. The twins are 19 months old. They don’t speak any words, just noises. One walks and has a gag reflex. The other doesn’t walk and doesn’t have a gag reflex. They are both on stage 2 baby food and still on formula for now. They go through physical and occupational therapy. And well I’ve actually gotten used to them not being around. I actually like the peace and quiet. Plus at the visits (which are only 1 hour mind you) they are both frustrating to deal with. They have gotten used to being able to play alot (the foster mom works at a day care) and want to play rather than eat and also fuss when they can’t get their way (whether it is having to eat or not being able to play with the toys when it is time to go, or when we have to put their coats or shoes on, etc). So really there is no way to try to put any techniques we are Now learning for premies to work, because there isn’t enough time. The visits are at 5pm. Because of my husband’s job, we had to take 5 pm because it was the earliest he could be there and its manditory that he be there. But the foster mom feeds them at 5pm-5:30pm or started to, so we have to feed them before they leave at 6pm. So there isn’t any time to work with them. Its play with them for 30 mins, feed them (which now takes around 30 mins because they want to fight) then change them and then they leave. We have to meet them at visits. We aren’t allowed home visits yet. Plus I’m due in 2 months with the 3rd. This may sound bad, but all I can think about is how I dread the visits and I wonder if I really want them back home. I know that sounds bad. Plus I get so tired of being watched so carefully at these visits and the people always wondering if I’m going to hurt the kids. I mean I don’t want to get really angry infront of those people but I also don’t want the kids to get the impression that they can run over me at the visits since the visits don’t last long. I want the kids to know my real feelings and reactions when the misbehave. I don’t want to be controling, but I dont want to waste time fighting them at the visits. I definetly want well behaved kids, which I know takes time, but time I don’t really have to work with.
Sometimes I think they would be better off with the foster mom, but I know my husband would be devistated if they don’t come home. Plus we have no idea when to expect them back….which I’m kinda dreading. *sigh* What do you all think I should do? Because I’m stressed and worried about this, which I know isn’t good during pregnancy. But I’m worried about my temper too and I’m hoping to God I don’t screw up. I’m supposed to take anger management soon too. Plus the DFS found out about my anger problem towards the kids because of my confession to my marriage counselor about problems with the kids and my fears of the future. Plus I and my husband already had Psych Evals which we waiting for the results. So, honestly, how in the world do I deal with this? I’ve already tried talking to my husband, but he keeps thinking things will be “fine” because he hopes they will be. I don’t know what to hope for.
Well it seems that some people are angry. Oh well. No I’ve never used drugs. Heck, I’ve never been drunk either. Honest to God. Also I’ve only slept with my husband. No one else before him. Anyway my situation is very difficult to deal with as I really regret getting pregnant with my twins and wish I had only gottten pregnant with one, but also not so soon. I was actually disappointed to find out that I was having twins because I knew I couldn’t handle it. I have no family or friends where I live and I have no support system whatsoever. So this is more difficult than you all could ever imagine.
Giuliana
Okay well the question is vague, but here is the problem. My twins have been in foster care for about 3 months. They were born two months premature so they are behind in development. Well my husband and I have visits with them only on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays for 1 hour each, unless something goes wrong or the day is a holiday. Anyway we had to go through parenting classes and still are. The techniques don’t work because they fit normal kids, not premature ones. The twins are 19 months old. They don’t speak any words, just noises. One walks and has a gag reflex. The other doesn’t walk and doesn’t have a gag reflex. They are both on stage 2 baby food and still on formula for now. They go through physical and occupational therapy. And well I’ve actually gotten used to them not being around. I actually like the peace and quiet. Plus at the visits (which are only 1 hour mind you) they are both frustrating to deal with. They have gotten used to being able to play alot (the foster mom works at a day care) and want to play rather than eat and also fuss when they can’t get their way (whether it is having to eat or not being able to play with the toys when it is time to go, or when we have to put their coats or shoes on, etc). So really there is no way to try to put any techniques we are Now learning for premies to work, because there isn’t enough time. The visits are at 5pm. Because of my husband’s job, we had to take 5 pm because it was the earliest he could be there and its manditory that he be there. But the foster mom feeds them at 5pm-5:30pm or started to, so we have to feed them before they leave at 6pm. So there isn’t any time to work with them. Its play with them for 30 mins, feed them (which now takes around 30 mins because they want to fight) then change them and then they leave. We have to meet them at visits. We aren’t allowed home visits yet. Plus I’m due in 2 months with the 3rd. This may sound bad, but all I can think about is how I dread the visits and I wonder if I really want them back home. I know that sounds bad. Plus I get so tired of being watched so carefully at these visits and the people always wondering if I’m going to hurt the kids. I mean I don’t want to get really angry infront of those people but I also don’t want the kids to get the impression that they can run over me at the visits since the visits don’t last long. I want the kids to know my real feelings and reactions when the misbehave. I don’t want to be controling, but I dont want to waste time fighting them at the visits. I definetly want well behaved kids, which I know takes time, but time I don’t really have to work with.
Sometimes I think they would be better off with the foster mom, but I know my husband would be devistated if they don’t come home. Plus we have no idea when to expect them back….which I’m kinda dreading. *sigh* What do you all think I should do? Because I’m stressed and worried about this, which I know isn’t good during pregnancy. But I’m worried about my temper too and I’m hoping to God I don’t screw up. I’m supposed to take anger management soon too. Plus the DFS found out about my anger problem towards the kids because of my confession to my marriage counselor about problems with the kids and my fears of the future. Plus I and my husband already had Psych Evals which we waiting for the results. So, honestly, how in the world do I deal with this? I’ve already tried talking to my husband, but he keeps thinking things will be “fine” because he hopes they will be. I don’t know what to hope for. Well it seems that some people are angry. Oh well. No I’ve never used drugs. Heck, I’ve never been drunk either. Honest to God. Also I’ve only slept with my husband. No one else before him. Anyway my situation is very difficult to deal with as I really regret getting pregnant with my twins and wish I had only gottten pregnant with one, but also not so soon. I was actually disappointed to find out that I was having twins because I knew I couldn’t handle it. I have no family or friends where I live and I have no support system whatsoever. So this is more difficult than you all could ever imagine.
Giuliana
Sep
19
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somecaliguy20 asked:
Don’t say Gusfrabba. I’m Not looking on how to avoid getting angry, I’m looking for non-destructive ways of dealing with the emotion. “Quiet” (for lack of a better word) exercises dont work for me, my anger brews and if I try and sit quietly and do something while angry, I just get more worked up.
Taniya
Don’t say Gusfrabba. I’m Not looking on how to avoid getting angry, I’m looking for non-destructive ways of dealing with the emotion. “Quiet” (for lack of a better word) exercises dont work for me, my anger brews and if I try and sit quietly and do something while angry, I just get more worked up.
Taniya
Sep
09
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Alaina asked:
The past year or so I’ve noticed a huge problem with my anger issues. I get worked up entirely too easy about things that should be a minor glitch in my day at best. Something pretty insignificant will happen that the “old me” would easily handle and brush off, but before I know it I’m totally worked up and freaking out about it. Honestly, I’m a total b*tch when it gets to that point. The first person to cross my path immediately after gets the brunt of it. And that’s unfortunate because it’s usually the LAST person I want to direct it at. I’ve tried breathing techniques….counting to 10….doesn’t work. I’d like to avoid counseling. Any other ideas? and if not, how do I even go about finding a therapist? I hate this about myself. I’m a happy person, I’m kind and gentle. But this other monster living in me is totally taking over! WTF!
haha, no thanks on the male thing. my boyfriend does a wonderful job in that dept.
Izabelle
The past year or so I’ve noticed a huge problem with my anger issues. I get worked up entirely too easy about things that should be a minor glitch in my day at best. Something pretty insignificant will happen that the “old me” would easily handle and brush off, but before I know it I’m totally worked up and freaking out about it. Honestly, I’m a total b*tch when it gets to that point. The first person to cross my path immediately after gets the brunt of it. And that’s unfortunate because it’s usually the LAST person I want to direct it at. I’ve tried breathing techniques….counting to 10….doesn’t work. I’d like to avoid counseling. Any other ideas? and if not, how do I even go about finding a therapist? I hate this about myself. I’m a happy person, I’m kind and gentle. But this other monster living in me is totally taking over! WTF!
haha, no thanks on the male thing. my boyfriend does a wonderful job in that dept.
Izabelle
