asked: my father sexually abused me and my little sister, and i truly believe my two brothers. the abuse for my sister and me happened several years ago, about 20 years for me, and more than 6 for my sister. for our state, the statute of limitations has passed and both my sister and me (she is 18 and in AA and NA) are unable to to take prescription drugs…my sister cannot take them because of her alcoholism and drug addiction, and i cannot because i have had addiction problems with prescription meds w/ a mood altering effect. my question is, what are some non narcotic methods for healing from this type of childhood? some anger-management techniques?
my sister has had a very rough life, and has been very self-destructive, and still struggles w/ her “demons,” i have veered in the opposite direction, before my husband, i NEVER dated or even kissed a boy. i am now in a successful marriage and have a beautiful son.
i would like to be able to help my sister deal w/ our past and
help prevent any future problems i might have as the memories continue to come out. my mom was similarly abused and when she was my age, she began to remember, which resulted in 3 failed marriages, abandoning her children, and a very destructive life. i have dealt with this fairly well since i finally admitted this to myself, but i fear that i won’t be able to handle any worse memories.
lol, sorry for the long question, just any opinions please thanks
as far as forgiving my dad, i suppose you could say that i have. mostly because i know that he cannot touch me and i haven’t seen him since before my son was born. i don’t wish harm on him, mostly i guess i just don’t care about him anymore. i don’t want an apology from him, and i realize no one can ever make sense of what he did, but i need to deal w/ my anger towards the abuse. also, i have trouble w/ intimate situations, and it would be great it that could be resolved.
Danna
Lately, I have been sooooooooo angry, irritable, and just plain enraged. I’m not a violent person, but today I got so mad that I threw a pop can at my husband…lol..yeah I know it sounds lame, but I literally wanted to punch him and I threw the can instead.
Lyric
I have the anger problem not him, sorry I didn’t specify. But he’s a good dude, I just have a problem blowing up when I get mad
Amari
in fact, mine target is nothing but just to get the maximum marks in the interview. I’d like to ask from the interviewers if they are reading it so. no need to give any answer who themselves are preparing for interview. is there any special technique to crack this naughty nut? if yes, plz specify it. anybody who think that he can passed out any type of interview at any time, is specially most welcome to this most fantastic question.
which is the most ticklish question? if any, give it with your best possible answer. I’ll give the best answer award to that person who will answer in 10 minutes only. you can check this time by bottom lines of the question.
do you know : why most of the people do the fear of interview dear?
is it true in your case too? answer trully.
how can we manage our interview stress in interview time?
how can we manage those people which can’t be managed i.e. self-managed peoples?
is there any role of anger management in the success in interview?
thanks in advance
Eliza
I don’t know much about his genetics, but he has serious anger issues. Has been to therapy and has been medicated for ADD/ADHD. His therapist previously said he has displaced anger – meaning when he gets angry at home, he takes his anger out on people at school and vice versa. Several times in the 4 years he has lived here, he has physically attacked me but he is getting older and bigger now.
Two nights ago he was being extremely mouthy with me and would not listen to anything I said. I told him he had to go to bed early after he started cussing me – saying “F%#$ You” and calling me a B#%#!. He ran at me and attacked me. By this I mean he shoved me and started punching me. He went so far as to jerk my glasses off my face and before I could get them from him, he snapped them in two. He tried to ram his fingers in my eyes and actually his fingernail left a pretty ugly scab just beneath one of my eyes. After all was said and done I found out that some kids had bullied him at school – pushing him down some steps and spitting in his face – and he carried that anger over to home and took it out on me.
My mother feels I should kick him out, a friend of mine feels like he belongs in an institution permanently somewhere (he was in a hospital for troubled kids about 7 times earlier in his life before he lived here and before he was adopted) and another foster child in my home (younger) has now made armor that he thinks I should wear for protection from this child – LOL.
I personally don’t feel he’s all that dangerous but he definitely has some serious issues and nothing seems to help. And I’m afraid he could be a danger to himself and to me as he gets older if this doesn’t get under control immediately. It doesn’t happen real often – maybe once every 3 or 4 months. I’m still not ready to give up on him. Tons of adults have – literally dozens of people have had him in their homes and kicked him out over the years. I think that’s part of the problem.
Any suggestions? What can I do? He has been taught tons of anger management techniques in therapy and from me but he won’t use them. He refuses to. How can I help him make the right choices to control his anger? Better yet, what can I do to help him get rid of the anger that’s causing these outbursts?
Jaylyn
I’m 15 and I have trouble managing my anger. I have already been to anger management once before. I have a bad habit of bottling things up and even when I talk about it, it doesn’t help. If you have any anger management techniques, besides anger management classes or therapy, please let me know.
Emilie
